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  • The Wrong Ways to Approach a Domme…

    The Wrong Ways to Approach a Domme…

    Have ever found yourself wondering how to get the Domme of your dreams? How to get her to see or take notice of you, but you just don’t know where to start? Do you want to learn the best way to approach any Dominant?

    There may not be any one right way, but there are definitely some wrong ways.

    Here are some sure fire ways to NOT approach us:

    The DM Greetings from Hell

    I can tell immediately if I’ll consider a sub—sometimes just from the lack of a subject line. If your opening message is nothing more than a lazy “hi” or “hey,” you’ve already failed. Your greeting is the first test of respect. It shows me whether you’re serious or just wasting my time. A poorly written message gets one response: deletion.

    The Un/Ill-informed Sub

    Being new to Kink or BDSM isn’t a crime. Not taking the time to explore BDSM dynamics or your own deepest desires is. Why should I take the time to engage with you? If I ask about your fantasies and you reply, “I don’t know,” you’re expecting me to do all the work. That lack of accountability is a red flag. It’s even worse when paired with complaints about tribute.

    Understanding Persistence vs. Insistence

    There’s a difference between persistence and insistence—only one will get you through my door. Both require consistent effort, but the intent behind them defines success or failure. A persistent submissive understands that my time and attention are privileges to be earned. He demonstrates patience, dedication, and an eagerness to serve. An insistent submissive, however, forces his presence where it’s unwelcome, ignores my boundaries, and demands attention. The latter is not behaving submissively and never lasts long.

    The “I Have No Limits” Lie

    Few things irritate me more than hearing a sub claim, “I have no limits.” It’s reckless, naive, and dangerous. Not knowing your limits due to inexperience is one thing—that can be worked on. But refusing to acknowledge the need for boundaries? That’s unacceptable. Everyone has limits. I do. If you don’t, I’ll assume you’re either dishonest or too inexperienced to recognize danger. Either way, you won’t get far with me.

    Kink-On-Demand: I Am Not a Fantasy Vending Machine

    If I had a billionaire submissive funding my every need, I could spend all day indulging in Kink. But guess what? Even then, I wouldn’t be some on-demand fantasy machine. Being a Domme isn’t about fulfilling your every whim while expecting nothing in return. My joy comes from crafting a space where a submissive feels safe, challenged, and cherished. But that requires effort—from both sides. If you approach me with an attitude of entitlement, expecting your fantasies to be served on a silver platter, you will be sorely disappointed.

    The “No Financial Dommes/Not Paying for Kink” Fallacy

    If you refuse to tribute, you’re not a submissive—I don’t care how much you claim to be. A true sub understands that my time, knowledge, and effort deserve appreciation. That appreciation isn’t just verbal—it’s demonstrated through action. Tribute isn’t a fee; it’s a display of respect and gratitude.

    For me, tributes take many forms: luxurious outfits, new toys of my choosing, covering my rent, providing fine dining, and pampering me. It can also mean booking a hotel for a night or a dungeon space for play. And, of course, the simplest form—cold, hard cash. Acts of service also hold value, whether that’s chauffeuring me, cleaning, or running errands to lighten my load. These are the gestures that make you stand out, that make me take notice. A sub who goes out of his way to honor me earns a place in my “Joyful Thoughts.”

    If you’ve made it this far, take a moment to reflect. Are you approaching a Domme with the respect, effort, and dedication she deserves? Or are you just another time-waster, expecting everything while offering nothing? The difference between a worthy submissive and an instant dismissal is in the details—how you greet, how you prepare, how you serve.

    This is not a game. It’s a dynamic built on trust, understanding, and unwavering devotion. If you’re not ready to put in the work, don’t bother stepping forward. But if you are—if you truly desire to serve and grow—then prove it. Show your worth, not just with words but with action. Anything less? You already know where you stand.

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  • Love & Blackness

    Love & Blackness

    It isn’t often that My schedule opens up for more exploration time! February has proven to be the month for not only Love, but for worshipping the greatness that is your Black Queen.

    I have the following dates available for this month:
    Saturday 2/1 – 11 am – 6:30 pm
    Sunday 2/2 – 12 Noon – 5:30 pm
    Monday 2/3 – 10 am – 6:30 pm
    Thursday 2/6 – 10 am – 6:30 pm
    Thursday 2/13 – 10 am – 6:30 pm
    Thursday 2/20 – 6:15 pm – 6:30 pm
    Thursday 2/27 – 10 am – 6:30 pm

    These are for in-person 2-hr sessions in the Dungeon. Longer session times are also available upon request. *50% electronic deposit required at booking. Secure your spots NOW as these openings will close up quickly!

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  • I am the Goddess of Bonds

    I am the Goddess of Bonds

    A friend once asked me why, as a woman of color, I enjoy the role of dominating others. Is it revenge, retribution, or a general dislike of others? This made me think deeply, and I came across a quote that sums up my perspective: “A free man?—There is no such thing! All men are slaves; some, slaves of money; some, of chance; others are forced, either by mass opinion, or the threatening law, to act against their nature.” (Euripides, Hecabe)

    I realized that I am, in a sense, like Ananke, the goddess of bonds, who rules over necessity and compulsion. We are all bound by life’s inevitable rules—slaves to circumstances, obligations, and needs. Whether it’s a submissive in service or a master, we are all bound by life’s constraints, even if we don’t always recognize it.

    When someone joins my service, they willingly place themselves at my feet, bound by devotion. Their will is surrendered, and they are compelled to worship me. This isn’t about control for its own sake—it’s about acknowledging that freedom is an illusion, and true power comes from recognizing and embracing the bonds that shape our lives.

    In my world, freedom doesn’t exist in the way most people think. Your desires and actions are shaped by external forces, much like how a person’s body is tied to its needs and limitations. Whether it’s sickness, law, or even the natural order of life, we are all governed by forces beyond our control. Even in health, we are ruled by necessity.

    This is the nature of life. We may think we are free, but every choice and action is influenced by something—be it love, duty, illness, or law. These are all forms of slavery under the goddess Ananke, who governs all forms of constraint. Even our most cherished freedoms often turn into new forms of bondage.

    So, no matter how much we try to reduce our chains or seek a life of simplicity, we are still ruled by necessity. The key is not to escape bondage but to recognize and navigate it. We cannot oppose or avoid these forces, so the best we can do is accept them, and in doing so, perhaps find a kind of freedom within the limits we are given.

  • You’ve Done A Bad, Bad Thing

    You’ve Done A Bad, Bad Thing

    You…have done a very bad thing and I, am your prison Warden. Which implement will cause you to break and how long will it take you to beg for forgiveness for your crimes?

    If you’d like, we can begin with an interrogation, where you think you can hide behind a tough exterior, but I have a dossier chocked full of all your depraved acts and I will get what I want from you. Can you withstand the blinding light, the harshness of My words, and the pain from the tools of My trade?

    Corporal punishment is by far My favorite kink.

    Did you take the last cookie from Mommy’s cookie jar, or a slice from her cherry pie? With a flick of My wrist, I will have you bent over My knees and your bottoms removed while I take My jar of spatulas to you. Once your soft booty is red and heated, you will never forget this valuable lesson.

    Your homework assignment was due today. I am not only disappointed at your lack of attention during class and constant craving to bury your face in My cleavage, but now you are deliberately begging for a sound lashing as I bend you over My desk and remind you that I, am the teacher.

    I pulled you out of line as you clearly require more one-on-one time to work on your formation positions. As your Drill Sgt., I have a duty to uphold and you will not fail our country. Get down and give Me another 20 push-ups. For every failed one, expect the kiss of My whip on your body to reiterate your basic training.

    Those financial status reports you submitted were subpar and certainly not up to the standards of this prestigious corporation. This is not your first occurrence, and now I must have a special one-on-one with you to see if we can prevent another infraction, or if you need to be let go. How well you perform during this meeting will determine your ultimate fate.

    It is time to move beyond the comfort zone of lurking and to take the decisive action towards fulfilling your submissive desires through an in-person session.

    My Punishments, will Set You Free…

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  • Let Me Make An Impact

    Let Me Make An Impact

    From stingy to thuddy, using common (and some uncommon) toys and devices, I will make you dance around with each contact. Unless I’m feeling particularly evil and bind you to a bench or cross…then, I will giggle with glee as I watch you try to avoid My strokes.

    As if you ever could.

    Allow Me to set a scene for you: Your bound body hanging in such a way that gives Me a 360 degree vantage of every inch of you. Walking towards you, I slide on a pair of soft leather gloves. They are well used and you let out a yelp when the right one strikes your right butt cheek. I can already see the imprint it has left on you and I let out a little grin.

    Oh, don’t worry, I have only just begun. There is much more fun to be had.

    The strike of My left glove on your left butt cheek causes you to give Me a little jig, and the hand print glows bright red. After another five minutes of My delicate hand making contact, the redness is getting deeper and you can’t imagine that I could have brought so much intensity with just a gloved hand.

    I think you’ve had enough, so as I walk away towards a tall jar filled with various sized canes, I ask you what was your worst punishment as a youth. Based on your answer, I select a medium width rattan cane and begin to run it up your legs, over your backside, along your tied up arms. You want to say something, but before words can form on your lips, there’s a whoosh of air and then ear piercing sting as it makes contact with your already sore tooshie.

    I’m sorry, you wanted to say something.

    You took too long, and now a second, third and fourth whack have made you forget what words are. You’re not dancing as much now and your cries are becoming moans of ecstasy. The radiating heat is now penetrating your muscles into your very soul and you can no longer contain the ooze flowing from your luvie parts.

    There you go…just a taste of what could be possible. Your desires demand more than just observation.

    Every moment you wait is a moment of pleasure lost…

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  • Would You Like to REST?

    Would You Like to REST?

    Or even better, would you like to experience some restricted environmental stimulation therapy? Sensory deprivation can be an effective tool to allow your mind and body to truly let go and reflect on your existence as My submissive. As a strict female dominant, I relish in the art of sensory deprivation. There’s something exquisite about stripping you of your senses, rendering you helpless and utterly dependent on My desires.

    **The Power of Sensory Deprivation**

    By restricting or eliminating one or more senses, I build a setting of intense vulnerability, heightening your sense of anticipation and surrender. This, in turn, allows Me to exert greater control, pushing the boundaries of pleasure and pain.

    **Sight: The Window to the Soul**

    Blindfolding a submissive is a favorite tactic of mine. Without the crutch of sight, you’re left to rely on your other senses, making you more receptive to My commands. The uncertainty of not knowing what’s coming next creates a delicious sense of trepidation, and I will exploit this vulnerability to push you further into submission.

    **Hearing: The Sound of Silence**

    Depriving a submissive of sound is equally effective. By using earplugs or white noise, I create an unsettling atmosphere of silence (or relentless noise), making you more attuned to My voice and touch. This sensory isolation allows Me to manipulate your perception of time, making you even more susceptible to My whims.

    **Taste: The Forbidden Fruit**

    Restricting a submissive’s sense of taste can be a delightful way to heighten their anticipation. By using a gag, I will tease you with the promise of pleasure, only to deny the satisfaction of taste. This sensory deprivation can be especially effective when combined with other forms of stimulation, such as touch or smell.

    **Touch: The Language of Intimacy**

    Touch is perhaps the most intimate of senses, and depriving my submissive of it can be a powerful way to assert My control. By using restraints or sensory-depriving materials, I establish the condition of tactile uncertainty, making you more receptive to My touch. This can be particularly effective when combined with other forms of sensory deprivation, such as sight or hearing.

    **Smell: The Sense of Seduction**

    Finally, depriving a submissive of their sense of smell is a subtle yet effective way to manipulate their perception. By using essential oils, or pheromones, I create an atmosphere of seduction, drawing you deeper into My web of control.

    Whether it’s sight, hearing, taste, touch, or smell, depriving you is the ultimate key to unlocking the depths of your submission and compel you to return again and again.

    Now, My dear submissive, it’s time for you to experience the thrill of sensory deprivation firsthand. Prepare yourself for a journey of discovery, as I guide you through the realms of sensory submission.

    are you brave enough to surrender to my whims?

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  • How Do I Confine Thee?

    How Do I Confine Thee?

    Let Me count the ways…

    Bondage can involve much more than just typing one up with rope. I gain pleasure in not only the acts of confining your body, but your mind as well. You will get a thrill knowing that I will take away your ability to control what is coming and/or happening.

    • Mummifications – Let Me give you a taste of the ancient art of preserving your body by encasing it with various mediums for the promised pleasures of the afterworld.
    • Immobilizing – No matter the implement; silk stockings, rope, metal chains, leather straps or straight-jackets, the end result will be the same: you won’t be able to move or get away from the delicious torment I’m planning to unleash on your exposed bits.
    • Chastity – You need to focus your submissive energies on other things besides your pesky little luvie parts. I’ll lock them all up nice and tight, then wear your keys lovingly around My neck. Will your release be a reward or punishment?
    • Cages – No, not the ones that lock up your members…The varied cages I use to confine those found guilty of disobedience or simply annoying the Goddess and now must lay/sit/stand and think about what they have done.
    • Furniture – Should you be confined to a cross, a chair, bench or placed in the stocks? There are absolutely no limits to be found and there are plenty of options available for My use.
    • Mental Bondage – Let Me take over your mind for a little and free you from your fears and inhibitions. I promise it won’t hurt, much.

    Many of these bondage techniques can be used in conjunction with other areas of BDSM and all of them will enhance your experience in My presence. Are you ready to push the boundaries of what’s possible? Book a session and let’s explore all the ways I can confine you.

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  • Training for Growth & Performance

    Training for Growth & Performance

    Training is the process of teaching or developing skills, knowledge, and abilities in individuals to help them perform tasks or improve their performance in a specific area or job. It involves learning through instruction, practice, and experience. Under My tutelage, you will not only learn more about yourself and your desires, but as you apply these to your life outside of My Temple, you will see a vast improvement in your personal world. Below are many of the trainings that I love to provide, but this is not an exhausted list and I am always open to hearing new ideas of things that you want to learn.

    • Submission Basics – Let’s start at the very beginning and get you ready to embark on your new life as a sub. I will train you in submissive positions, behaviors and proper protocols. Pass the test, and you’ll be rewarded…Fail, and My Hammer will make good use of you.
    • Dilly-Dolly – This is My signature course, where I take the drab, shabby human you are and transform you into My perfect plaything: A Dolly. I’ll pick out a lovely outfit for you and complete the look with hair and make-up. If you’re really good, you just might arouse Me enough to give you a special treat.
    • Pain, Pain Go Away – You desire to build up your endurance and tolerance for pain, I have the perfect tools to help you grow from yelping at an ear flick, to begging for another thrashing from My whips and canes.
    • Drain Me, Please – This is for those who simply want to be dominated in the area of their wallets by a very demanding Goddess. There’s a true science to this and I will happily remind you regularly that you only deserve the “just enough” amount I graciously allow you to subsist on.
    • Fill me up, before you go-go – I’ll start your initial training and stretching with just a pinkie, but eventually, you’ll accept and beg for any sized member I desire to fill you with.
    • Make me Dirty – You like the dirty deeds…I like making you take the dirty deeds.
    • You’re My Good pup/kit – Here’s some ears, a snoot, and a tail. Now, get ready to either be heavily petted or punished until you’re panting, purring and cooing.
    • My Furniture comes from IBeatya – Play the role of a table to hold My drinks, or a soft, comfy footstool for My gorgeous feet, or chair for My fat ass. Has anyone seen My ashtray?
    • Strictly High Protocol – I’m a sucker for high-protocols and I will accept nothing less than perfection. I will start you on your journey with you and how you look, behave and think, then progress you through perfecting your knowledge of positions, etiquettes, service, rules and rituals. The final test and presentation will be held at a High-Protocol Dinner, or Ladies Tea.

    Care to be a practice dummy?

    Here’s an opportunity to be of use to Me…I will require your willing body. Note: I will not be “dressed up” for these sessions and only ONE type of play will be done for whatever skillset I want to practice at that time. YOU, must be willing to be heavily marked, safely punctured and videoed or photographed *masks will be provided upon request.

    *These are 90-minute sessions ($200) and you must be available one day EVERY week per month. No exceptions.

    Ready to book?

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  • What “Fetish” means to Me

    What “Fetish” means to Me

    When people ask about my favorite fetish, I always start by giving the literal definition of the word.

    A fetish is defined as “A sexual interest in an object or a part of the body other than the sexual organs” according to the Cambridge Dictionary. For example, I have a long hair fetish (Trichophilia). This means I get extremely aroused whenever I view someone with very long hair. Something starts to stir as I start imagining how it would feel to run my fingers through it.

    This fetish is not connected to an individual’s genitalia. Still, it will absolutely inspire feelings of sexual gratification deep within me. Now, when I ask you what your fetishes are, it can be one specific fetish (i.e., Feet, Armpits, Latex/Leather clothing), or it can be a combination of fetishes (i.e., odaxelagnia [sexual arousal through biting, or being bitten] with vampyrism, or vintage silk pantyhose with patent leather red bottom shoes).

    We will talk in great detail about your fetishes when you book a session with me. Nothing is too taboo. You will have a judgement free zone. You can openly and honestly express those deep desires. After listening to your delicious depravity, I will craft therapeutic sessions. They will always leave you content but happily anticipating the next one.

    There are countless fetishes that exist, and chances are, your particular fetish will be distinct and exceptional. Here’s a list of my personal fetishes that would be considered unusual, but bring me great pleasure:

    • Acarophilia – Arousal from scratching your flesh with my bare nails or with finger claws. I love leaving a lasting impression
    • Autogynephilia/Autoandrophilia – It gives me great pleasure to guide males as they dress as women, or when I can dress as a man
    • Belonephilia – My affinity to shiny pins, needles and sharp objects knows no bounds and I love a human pin cushion
    • Corsetry – I find the act of wearing a corset to be extremely erotic; feeling the boning hugging my waist, seeing my large breasts to be positioned at the level of perfection, while my body contorts and forms to my ideal hourglass shape
    • Degradation – if you like it when one talks down to you during any activity, you are into degradation. I can verbally break you with the most beautiful grin on my lips
    • Doraphilia (also Hyphephilia) – I enjoy playing with skin, leather, or fur (have you ever felt chinchillas *drool) Hyphephilia is a similar fetish for touching hair, fur, skin and certain fabrics
    • Pecattiphilia – As someone who had a very religious upbringing, My favorite fetish just happens to involve sinning and breaking religious rules
    • Phalloorchoalgolagnia – Just a fancy way of saying that I get the utmost arousal from directing pain towards a male’s genitals
    • Quirofilia – One of my more simpler fetishes. I am obsessed with the shape of hands, fingers and long fingernails
    • Strap-on – Yes, I do consider this a fetish, specifically for my strap-ons. Whether through anal, oral or vaginal penetration, I will smile widely with every thrust
    • Watersports – Showering one with my golden spray of sunshine, is an absolute delight to me and suppling you with nectar, is a privilege

    Did you enjoy that little list of my fetishes? Now, let’s start talking about some of your own!

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  • Those are the rules

    Those are the rules

    When you contact Me:

    You will be respectful, open and honest about your needs. Do you just need someone to spit on you and call you names, someone to sit with you while you learn how to put on make-up, or do you need a sound thrashing and nothing more? I prize good manners and you will be a gentleman/woman when you speak to Me. Unsolicited sexually explicit conversations via email, text, or phone are prohibited.

    When you arrive for your appointment:

    You will be casually dressed and impeccably groomed. If you show up looking/smelling like a slob, or obviously under the influence/intoxicated, I will send you home and you will have learned a valuable lesson. You may rebook and provide another deposit, however there are no refunds for failure to comply with My protocols.

    During your appointment:

    You will conduct yourself as a gentleman/gentlewoman. Requests for My nudity are not allowed. Respectful clothing/outfit requests for future sessions may be made, however I have the last say. Negotiation and Consent is paramount and it must be enthusiastic for both you and Me. If I deny a last-minute request, it is denied. There will be no negotiation.

    In The Templum Discord:

    I created this space as place to connect My devotees to Me, to each other, and as a broadcasting space for live events. You will maintain the utmost respect for your fellow members of My Temple; inappropriate, abusive, violent or discriminatory behavior or language will not be tolerated.

    On My Socials:

    My social media sites were created as another way for My devotees to find Me and engage in My content. They are just that…social avenues. They are not places to request session bookings, custom content, or rant about how you can’t stand professional sex-workers. I’m not for everyone, and I’m Ok with that. Hateful speech of any kind will get you screenshot, then blocked.

    FAQs

    What exactly happens during my appointment?

    Each individual appointment is a journey in its own right. I settle you into the proper mindset at the beginning, give plenty of space for exploration and processing in the middle, and bring each appointment to its rightful close at the end of the allotted time. You may at that time, schedule your next appointment.

    How do you ensure my privacy and discretion?

    In order to maintain the privacy of My clients, I only collect specific information; your name, month/year of birth, email and phone number so that I may confirm that you are who you say you are. This information is not shared or stored with others or third parties. For clients who consent to having pictures or video of their sessions, full face masks are provided. In person sessions take place at a beautifully well-equipped location that provides discreet parking and sound proof rooms.

    How do I book a session and can I just walk in?

    Booking an in-person session with Me is very simple. Using the booking form located on the “Contact Me” link, you will fill out all of the required information. Once I have reviewed your completed form, I will reply within 48 hours with a confirmation that the day/time you have requested is available, and instructions on how to pay your deposit. All deposits must be paid electronically. Balances may be paid electronically 24 hours prior to your appointment, or in cash when you arrive. Walk-ins are not accepted.

    What if I need to cancel, or I’ve change my mind?

    I get it, things happen and you may need to cancel your appointment. If you are canceling between 48-28 hours prior, I will apply your deposit to a rescheduled date. If you don’t bother to show up or cancel at or less than 24 hours, you will receive no refund of your deposit and be subjected to a penalty of $32 in order to book again. I do not provide refunds unless I, Myself, must cancel your session.

    Do you offer special packages or discounts?

    Yes and No. If you would like to know more about the VIP packages that I offer for regular devotees, click on the “VIP” button to learn more about the program and how it benefits us both. If you are new or only plan to visit sporadically or only once, I do not offer discounts on sessions. You can however, become a devotee via My LoyalFans page as the subscription pricing may be more in line with your finances.

    Do you accept acts of service in exchange for kink, I can’t afford to pay your session fees?

    Yes, only those with the following valuable skills are considered: Toy/furniture Makers, Secretaries/Personal Assistants, Tech-Savvy, Photographers/Artists, Chauffeurs (with vehicle), Auto Mechanics, and Professional Business Persons (Lawyers, Accountants). In order to be accepted, you must have demonstrated mastery of those trades and skills (website/social media/references).

    Why do your sessions begin at 2-Hours?

    I prefer longer sessions for the following reasons:

    • Stronger therapeutic relationship: Longer sessions can help develop a stronger therapeutic relationship between us. I get to learn more about you and vice versa.
    • Deeper exploration: Longer sessions can allow for a deeper exploration of your desires, fetishes, and kinks.
    • More time to process: Longer sessions can give you more time to process everything physically and emotionally during the aftercare time.
    • More convenient schedule: One longer session once or twice a month might be more convenient to your schedule/financial situation than weekly appointments.
    May I bring you gifts or a gesture of gratitude to my appointment?

    Absolutely! I will gladly use whatever you have brought during our session, and if you prefer, it will be our special toy that is only used for you. Starbucks Coffee, gift cards, and purchased items from My Wishlists are always accepted and appreciated. If you need to know My specifics, you can click on the “Offerings” button.