Mistress Hera

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  • The Wrong Ways to Approach a Domme…

    The Wrong Ways to Approach a Domme…

    Have ever found yourself wondering how to get the Domme of your dreams? How to get her to see or take notice of you, but you just don’t know where to start? Do you want to learn the best way to approach any Dominant?

    There may not be any one right way, but there are definitely some wrong ways.

    Here are some sure fire ways to NOT approach us:

    The DM Greetings from Hell

    I can tell immediately if I’ll consider a sub—sometimes just from the lack of a subject line. If your opening message is nothing more than a lazy “hi” or “hey,” you’ve already failed. Your greeting is the first test of respect. It shows me whether you’re serious or just wasting my time. A poorly written message gets one response: deletion.

    The Un/Ill-informed Sub

    Being new to Kink or BDSM isn’t a crime. Not taking the time to explore BDSM dynamics or your own deepest desires is. Why should I take the time to engage with you? If I ask about your fantasies and you reply, “I don’t know,” you’re expecting me to do all the work. That lack of accountability is a red flag. It’s even worse when paired with complaints about tribute.

    Understanding Persistence vs. Insistence

    There’s a difference between persistence and insistence—only one will get you through my door. Both require consistent effort, but the intent behind them defines success or failure. A persistent submissive understands that my time and attention are privileges to be earned. He demonstrates patience, dedication, and an eagerness to serve. An insistent submissive, however, forces his presence where it’s unwelcome, ignores my boundaries, and demands attention. The latter is not behaving submissively and never lasts long.

    The “I Have No Limits” Lie

    Few things irritate me more than hearing a sub claim, “I have no limits.” It’s reckless, naive, and dangerous. Not knowing your limits due to inexperience is one thing—that can be worked on. But refusing to acknowledge the need for boundaries? That’s unacceptable. Everyone has limits. I do. If you don’t, I’ll assume you’re either dishonest or too inexperienced to recognize danger. Either way, you won’t get far with me.

    Kink-On-Demand: I Am Not a Fantasy Vending Machine

    If I had a billionaire submissive funding my every need, I could spend all day indulging in Kink. But guess what? Even then, I wouldn’t be some on-demand fantasy machine. Being a Domme isn’t about fulfilling your every whim while expecting nothing in return. My joy comes from crafting a space where a submissive feels safe, challenged, and cherished. But that requires effort—from both sides. If you approach me with an attitude of entitlement, expecting your fantasies to be served on a silver platter, you will be sorely disappointed.

    The “No Financial Dommes/Not Paying for Kink” Fallacy

    If you refuse to tribute, you’re not a submissive—I don’t care how much you claim to be. A true sub understands that my time, knowledge, and effort deserve appreciation. That appreciation isn’t just verbal—it’s demonstrated through action. Tribute isn’t a fee; it’s a display of respect and gratitude.

    For me, tributes take many forms: luxurious outfits, new toys of my choosing, covering my rent, providing fine dining, and pampering me. It can also mean booking a hotel for a night or a dungeon space for play. And, of course, the simplest form—cold, hard cash. Acts of service also hold value, whether that’s chauffeuring me, cleaning, or running errands to lighten my load. These are the gestures that make you stand out, that make me take notice. A sub who goes out of his way to honor me earns a place in my “Joyful Thoughts.”

    If you’ve made it this far, take a moment to reflect. Are you approaching a Domme with the respect, effort, and dedication she deserves? Or are you just another time-waster, expecting everything while offering nothing? The difference between a worthy submissive and an instant dismissal is in the details—how you greet, how you prepare, how you serve.

    This is not a game. It’s a dynamic built on trust, understanding, and unwavering devotion. If you’re not ready to put in the work, don’t bother stepping forward. But if you are—if you truly desire to serve and grow—then prove it. Show your worth, not just with words but with action. Anything less? You already know where you stand.

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  • What “Fetish” means to Me

    What “Fetish” means to Me

    When people ask about my favorite fetish, I always start by giving the literal definition of the word.

    A fetish is defined as “A sexual interest in an object or a part of the body other than the sexual organs” according to the Cambridge Dictionary. For example, I have a long hair fetish (Trichophilia). This means I get extremely aroused whenever I view someone with very long hair. Something starts to stir as I start imagining how it would feel to run my fingers through it.

    This fetish is not connected to an individual’s genitalia. Still, it will absolutely inspire feelings of sexual gratification deep within me. Now, when I ask you what your fetishes are, it can be one specific fetish (i.e., Feet, Armpits, Latex/Leather clothing), or it can be a combination of fetishes (i.e., odaxelagnia [sexual arousal through biting, or being bitten] with vampyrism, or vintage silk pantyhose with patent leather red bottom shoes).

    We will talk in great detail about your fetishes when you book a session with me. Nothing is too taboo. You will have a judgement free zone. You can openly and honestly express those deep desires. After listening to your delicious depravity, I will craft therapeutic sessions. They will always leave you content but happily anticipating the next one.

    There are countless fetishes that exist, and chances are, your particular fetish will be distinct and exceptional. Here’s a list of my personal fetishes that would be considered unusual, but bring me great pleasure:

    • Acarophilia – Arousal from scratching your flesh with my bare nails or with finger claws. I love leaving a lasting impression
    • Autogynephilia/Autoandrophilia – It gives me great pleasure to guide males as they dress as women, or when I can dress as a man
    • Belonephilia – My affinity to shiny pins, needles and sharp objects knows no bounds and I love a human pin cushion
    • Corsetry – I find the act of wearing a corset to be extremely erotic; feeling the boning hugging my waist, seeing my large breasts to be positioned at the level of perfection, while my body contorts and forms to my ideal hourglass shape
    • Degradation – if you like it when one talks down to you during any activity, you are into degradation. I can verbally break you with the most beautiful grin on my lips
    • Doraphilia (also Hyphephilia) – I enjoy playing with skin, leather, or fur (have you ever felt chinchillas *drool) Hyphephilia is a similar fetish for touching hair, fur, skin and certain fabrics
    • Pecattiphilia – As someone who had a very religious upbringing, My favorite fetish just happens to involve sinning and breaking religious rules
    • Phalloorchoalgolagnia – Just a fancy way of saying that I get the utmost arousal from directing pain towards a male’s genitals
    • Quirofilia – One of my more simpler fetishes. I am obsessed with the shape of hands, fingers and long fingernails
    • Strap-on – Yes, I do consider this a fetish, specifically for my strap-ons. Whether through anal, oral or vaginal penetration, I will smile widely with every thrust
    • Watersports – Showering one with my golden spray of sunshine, is an absolute delight to me and suppling you with nectar, is a privilege

    Did you enjoy that little list of my fetishes? Now, let’s start talking about some of your own!

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  • Those are the rules

    Those are the rules

    When you contact Me:

    You will be respectful, open and honest about your needs. Do you just need someone to spit on you and call you names, someone to sit with you while you learn how to put on make-up, or do you need a sound thrashing and nothing more? I prize good manners and you will be a gentleman/woman when you speak to Me. Unsolicited sexually explicit conversations via email, text, or phone are prohibited.

    When you arrive for your appointment:

    You will be casually dressed and impeccably groomed. If you show up looking/smelling like a slob, or obviously under the influence/intoxicated, I will send you home and you will have learned a valuable lesson. You may rebook and provide another deposit, however there are no refunds for failure to comply with My protocols.

    During your appointment:

    You will conduct yourself as a gentleman/gentlewoman. Requests for My nudity are not allowed. Respectful clothing/outfit requests for future sessions may be made, however I have the last say. Negotiation and Consent is paramount and it must be enthusiastic for both you and Me. If I deny a last-minute request, it is denied. There will be no negotiation.

    In The Templum Discord:

    I created this space as place to connect My devotees to Me, to each other, and as a broadcasting space for live events. You will maintain the utmost respect for your fellow members of My Temple; inappropriate, abusive, violent or discriminatory behavior or language will not be tolerated.

    On My Socials:

    My social media sites were created as another way for My devotees to find Me and engage in My content. They are just that…social avenues. They are not places to request session bookings, custom content, or rant about how you can’t stand professional sex-workers. I’m not for everyone, and I’m Ok with that. Hateful speech of any kind will get you screenshot, then blocked.

    FAQs

    What exactly happens during my appointment?

    Each individual appointment is a journey in its own right. I settle you into the proper mindset at the beginning, give plenty of space for exploration and processing in the middle, and bring each appointment to its rightful close at the end of the allotted time. You may at that time, schedule your next appointment.

    How do you ensure my privacy and discretion?

    In order to maintain the privacy of My clients, I only collect specific information; your name, month/year of birth, email and phone number so that I may confirm that you are who you say you are. This information is not shared or stored with others or third parties. For clients who consent to having pictures or video of their sessions, full face masks are provided. In person sessions take place at a beautifully well-equipped location that provides discreet parking and sound proof rooms.

    How do I book a session and can I just walk in?

    Booking an in-person session with Me is very simple. Using the booking form located on the “Contact Me” link, you will fill out all of the required information. Once I have reviewed your completed form, I will reply within 48 hours with a confirmation that the day/time you have requested is available, and instructions on how to pay your deposit. All deposits must be paid electronically. Balances may be paid electronically 24 hours prior to your appointment, or in cash when you arrive. Walk-ins are not accepted.

    What if I need to cancel, or I’ve change my mind?

    I get it, things happen and you may need to cancel your appointment. If you are canceling between 48-28 hours prior, I will apply your deposit to a rescheduled date. If you don’t bother to show up or cancel at or less than 24 hours, you will receive no refund of your deposit and be subjected to a penalty of $32 in order to book again. I do not provide refunds unless I, Myself, must cancel your session.

    Do you offer special packages or discounts?

    Yes and No. If you would like to know more about the VIP packages that I offer for regular devotees, click on the “VIP” button to learn more about the program and how it benefits us both. If you are new or only plan to visit sporadically or only once, I do not offer discounts on sessions. You can however, become a devotee via My LoyalFans page as the subscription pricing may be more in line with your finances.

    Do you accept acts of service in exchange for kink, I can’t afford to pay your session fees?

    Yes, only those with the following valuable skills are considered: Toy/furniture Makers, Secretaries/Personal Assistants, Tech-Savvy, Photographers/Artists, Chauffeurs (with vehicle), Auto Mechanics, and Professional Business Persons (Lawyers, Accountants). In order to be accepted, you must have demonstrated mastery of those trades and skills (website/social media/references).

    Why do your sessions begin at 2-Hours?

    I prefer longer sessions for the following reasons:

    • Stronger therapeutic relationship: Longer sessions can help develop a stronger therapeutic relationship between us. I get to learn more about you and vice versa.
    • Deeper exploration: Longer sessions can allow for a deeper exploration of your desires, fetishes, and kinks.
    • More time to process: Longer sessions can give you more time to process everything physically and emotionally during the aftercare time.
    • More convenient schedule: One longer session once or twice a month might be more convenient to your schedule/financial situation than weekly appointments.
    May I bring you gifts or a gesture of gratitude to my appointment?

    Absolutely! I will gladly use whatever you have brought during our session, and if you prefer, it will be our special toy that is only used for you. Starbucks Coffee, gift cards, and purchased items from My Wishlists are always accepted and appreciated. If you need to know My specifics, you can click on the “Offerings” button.